Thursday, March 29, 2012

Day 81: Choose to be Happy

Stealing from something a friend posted on Facebook today, since I worked all day and all evening and just now got home from cleaning the dojang, which got done after the cafe tonight instead of before. 

So sweet that you guys waited for me to finish childbirth class before going back so I wouldn't be left out, btw. 

You know that I live to mop and practice the 15 Lock Drill.   :-)

Anyway, if you don't want to read the whole article, here's a recap:

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy:

1) Your need to always be right

2) Your need for control

3) Blame

4) Self-defeating self-talk

5) Limiting beliefs

6) Complaining

7) Criticism

8) The need to impress others

9) Resistance to change

10) Labels

11) Fears

12) Excuses

13) The past

14) Attachment

15) Living up to others' expectations

Wow, that's quite a list.

No time to go into detail about any of them tonight, but I did like one part enough to recopy it here.  It was under  #6 - Complaining:

 "Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it."

I will remind myself (and the people in my life I love and want to see happy) of this when I see them giving others the power to make them unhappy.

Really.  I will.  I promise.

Starting tomorrow.  I have to go to bed because I'm working again in the morning.


Anonymous said...

That's a really good article. I really liked it. :-) it was short and to the point. If more people did those things the world would be a better place. :-) that's how Zen works too... love it. :-)

Kath said...

So true. And although we can't change anyone else, we can start with ourselves and be the change we want to see - and set the example. XO