Sunday, December 04, 2011
Today, a group of us gathered around her, lit candles, read affirmations, and massaged her with good-smelling lotions. We each presented her with a bead we had brought for her to make into a birth necklace.
These rituals, paired with beautiful music and delicious food, created a wonderful little retreat for us Birth Mamas. I don't think that my friend was the only person to leave feeling nourished by it.
To an outsider, I can see how this "alternative baby shower," might look a little odd. But I think many can agree that, in our culture, we don't have enough of these kinds of rituals that bring us together to celebrate these major milestones in our lives. And when we do get together to celebrate a new bride-to-be or mother-to-be, the focus is too often on the "stuff" - and not on the person and the milestone we're celebrating.
Spiritualism has given over to commercialism.
Our gifts to her today were our beads, our hands, our voices, and our wisdom. And the constant reminders that she is not alone and has a "tribe" to draw upon should she need us during her birth, as she learns to breastfeed again, or as she struggles with the new challenges of being a mother of two.
Isn't that what a new mother really needs?
Posted by Kath at 9:25 PM